How to Write Your First Online Dating E-mail
Geplaatst op 29-03-2024
Categorie: Lifestyle
Every person who tried online dating has come across the problem of what to write in your first e-mail to other person. From our experience, we can say that these letters can vary from as short as ‘Hi’ to as long as a novel. That’s why we’ll try to give you some tips to help you overcome these awkward situations.
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Pay attention to their profile
People like to know that you’ve read their profile and that you’re not sending a draft of your letter to a huge list of people. So, make note of some things they like or dislike.
Don’t be too aggressive and don’t go too far
Try to be yourself and write in the style you usually do. Note that it’s only your first letter, so future holiday planning or a marriage proposal will not do any good.
Write what you liked about the person
Everyone likes compliments, so does the person you’re writing to. If you, say, liked her smile – write about it; if you think he’s handsome and looks like young Bruce Lee – you can write about it. It can help break the ice between the two of you.
Don’t be too formal
Some letters from people from a dating site look like a commercial or a business letter. For example, will you be interested in someone who writes “Hi, my name is ***. I like to watch TV, listen to music and take long walks in the forest.” Make sure your letter sounds interesting and is not aimed only at those who don’t receive any letters at all, and who will thus be interested even in this one.
Ask questions
If you found some information in their profile that can be worth asking a question (maybe, a hobby like diving or parachute jumping) or a photo from some exotic place, ask about it. This will show your interest and is also a good icebreaker.
Keep it simple
You don’t need to write about your whole life in your first e-mail. Leave something for future e-mails, phone calls and dates.
Comment on your common interests
Most dating sites allow you to post your interests into your profile. This can be the thing that made you choose to write to this particular person and it’s a great chance to share this interest between the two of you. If you like mountain climbing or cycling, don’t hesitate to write about it. However, you should be genuine when writing about your hobbies or you can end up in a situation when you’ll really have to climb on a mountain (if you don’t want the lie to come out).
Spell check your e-mail and re-read it
Develop a habit of copypasting your e-mail to a Word document. This can help you correct your spelling mistakes and get rid of typos or other mistakes that can occur when you’re typing fast.
Don’t put on airs!
Generally, you don’t ever need to write about driving a brand-new car and living in a penthouse (even if you do) or partying with celebrities. Most people are looking for a person who is more down to earth and has something else besides sums of money. Better, try to describe your personality and your character.
End your letter with a question
Asking a question before saying goodbye is a good way of keeping the conversation going. For example, you can ask, why did the person choose to try online dating or who he/she is looking for on the site.
As you see, it’s not that hard to write your first e-mail to a person on a dating site. Just try to make it more personal and show your genuine interest in that person. This will help. Good luck!